Are the French Really Rude?

In my view, no. Yes, they maintain a certain distance when relating to strangers, a coolness that an outgoing American can find off putting. And yes, they are insistent on adhering to a set of formalized manners. And true, they have a concept of personal space that can make you feel uncomfortable if you are used to a world in which the 15 inches surrounding your body are inviolable. But rude in the sense that they lack consideration for others? Not at all.

"Jean-Luc has a name. So there's no need to call him by anything else."

On the other hand, it seems to me that maintaining a certain level of decorum in interpersonal relationships requires a pretty much constant stream of reminders about what’s proper. This notice, with its tut tut tut instructions to treat the bus driver with respect, is part of a campaign to keep bus riders in line. Other notices in the series admonish riders not to ask the driver to stop between stops, to give up their seats to persons who are older or infirm, to fold up their strollers,  and to keep their voices down. There’s even a series of borderline ridiculous YouTube videos to reinforce the messages.

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  1. Comment by Gina | 03/13/11 at 11:07 am

    Problem is, these postings are totally ignored. I’ve never seen anyone fold up a stroller on a bus, and rarely do I see anyone giving up their seats to the elderly or infirm. In fact, I’ve seen men (MEN!) rush to beat little old ladies to seats. I’ve lived here for just over 2 years, and lately it seems that there is less and less consideration for anyone else on public transportation. Maybe we’re just all tired of the cold…including me!

  2. Comment by Lola White | 03/26/11 at 7:19 pm

    We Americans are often disinclined to LEARN anything about a country we are visiting–let alone learning the language.
    in Paris one is expected to greet the desk clerk, shopkeeper, stranger on the street, (Bon jour!) before asking questions or making demands. And any kind of request is preceeded or immediately followed by ‘please’ (s’il vous plait), and one always says ‘thank you’ (merci) for any assistance at all. If one fails to do these simple things, one is thought to be VERY RUDE, and may receive a brusque (rude) response. And any effort at all to speak the language however badly tends to be highly appreciated. WE are often rude by French standards. But we don’t have to be, and we are much better liked when we are polite ourselves.

  3. jj
    Comment by jj | 04/22/11 at 7:47 pm

    As a New Yorker who has travelled the world widely on business and pleasure , I find Parisians some of the nicest people of any large city

  4. Comment by Long Term Lets In France | 04/25/12 at 4:42 pm

    I’ve lived in France since 2005 and generally find everyone I meet, passer by or shop worker to be polite and helpful. Although I always try to speak French I am far from fluent and often find the French keen to practice or show off their English to help. As long as there is an attempt to speak French, as opposed to slowly shouting English at them as I so often overhear, the French can be very amiable. I think the general way of life here is a lot more polite eg hand shaking, bonjour, bon journee etc among strangers a lot friendlier than in my old home town in the UK.

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